When Bad Things Happen to Good People

I am writing this blog post at the request of a friend who was in a terrible car accident and is having a difficult recovery.  I can’t say that I have had much experience with tragedy.  If you remember my blog post “Lucky,” I have been very blessed.  But I know people who have been dealt some harsh blows and when I’m reading spiritual books, I pay close attention when this issue is discussed.

Basically, I believe we are all here to learn through experience and each experience shifts our consciousness a bit and moves us ever closer to who we are meant to be.  I think there are two big reasons bad things happen to good people.  One of those reasons is Karma and Karmic agreements.  I believe we have soul mates and that together with them and God we map out our lives before we ever arrive in them.  We make agreements to play roles and provide lessons for one another.  One of these days I will talk more about my thoughts on this, but now for the second big reason.  CHANGE!

I think each of us has a path and a destiny.  Our souls help us find our paths.  Our strong emotions and reactions direct us where we should and should not go.  The night I met Mark I saw him across a crowded room and knew immediately I HAD TO meet him.  Ten minutes later, we were dancing…Two years later, we were married.  Sometimes though we ignore those directives.  The ideas seem silly or scary and we push them out of our heads.  But it is impossible (I think) to quiet your soul.  If you ignore what you are being “called” to do, your body will begin to react.  You may feel stressed, depressed, or begin having health problems.  I think a lot of accidents and illnesses happen as a result of your soul’s scream for change and need to get you back on track.  I think it’s safe to assume that there is nothing like coming face to face with death or debilitation to make you truly question your life’s purpose.  And once you start to ask the questions, your soul will provide the answers.  God will provide the answers.

Our biggest problem is that we live in this world of good and bad.  Our soul tells us to quit our job and the voice of our hard-working father rings in our ears.  Work is good, quitting is bad.  Our soul whispers to us to move across the country, but our loving mother’s voice sounds off.  Being close to family is good, moving away from them is bad.  We listen to others instead of our selves.  We trust what we have been taught, instead of what we have always known about ourselves.

The truth is that the most horrible thing that has just happened to the most wonderful person is probably their life’s greatest blessing.  But it will take time to get through it and to look back and see what was learned from it.