When Bad Things Happen to Good People

I am writing this blog post at the request of a friend who was in a terrible car accident and is having a difficult recovery.  I can’t say that I have had much experience with tragedy.  If you remember my blog post “Lucky,” I have been very blessed.  But I know people who have been dealt some harsh blows and when I’m reading spiritual books, I pay close attention when this issue is discussed.

Basically, I believe we are all here to learn through experience and each experience shifts our consciousness a bit and moves us ever closer to who we are meant to be.  I think there are two big reasons bad things happen to good people.  One of those reasons is Karma and Karmic agreements.  I believe we have soul mates and that together with them and God we map out our lives before we ever arrive in them.  We make agreements to play roles and provide lessons for one another.  One of these days I will talk more about my thoughts on this, but now for the second big reason.  CHANGE!

I think each of us has a path and a destiny.  Our souls help us find our paths.  Our strong emotions and reactions direct us where we should and should not go.  The night I met Mark I saw him across a crowded room and knew immediately I HAD TO meet him.  Ten minutes later, we were dancing…Two years later, we were married.  Sometimes though we ignore those directives.  The ideas seem silly or scary and we push them out of our heads.  But it is impossible (I think) to quiet your soul.  If you ignore what you are being “called” to do, your body will begin to react.  You may feel stressed, depressed, or begin having health problems.  I think a lot of accidents and illnesses happen as a result of your soul’s scream for change and need to get you back on track.  I think it’s safe to assume that there is nothing like coming face to face with death or debilitation to make you truly question your life’s purpose.  And once you start to ask the questions, your soul will provide the answers.  God will provide the answers.

Our biggest problem is that we live in this world of good and bad.  Our soul tells us to quit our job and the voice of our hard-working father rings in our ears.  Work is good, quitting is bad.  Our soul whispers to us to move across the country, but our loving mother’s voice sounds off.  Being close to family is good, moving away from them is bad.  We listen to others instead of our selves.  We trust what we have been taught, instead of what we have always known about ourselves.

The truth is that the most horrible thing that has just happened to the most wonderful person is probably their life’s greatest blessing.  But it will take time to get through it and to look back and see what was learned from it.

4 thoughts on “When Bad Things Happen to Good People

  1. Biyachessa September 24, 2009 / 9:21 am

    OMG. I am so sorry for your friend. I hope he gets better. That is so true you know. Bad things do happen to good people.
    Yes and I think they happen to either test the person or to give way to something better. Although it may seem brutal, it’s life.

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  2. ray September 24, 2009 / 9:51 am

    Thank you for today’s blog. Wow. How thought provoking. I’ve pondered more than an hour on it and here is how I feel about it (at this moment; everything is subject to change).A soul’s spiritual desire is to do good. Through our upbringing we are taught all kinds of nuiences, but our soul knows to do good. So our life should be about choosing good. Accidents, illnesses, misfortunes, etc. happen because we violated some universal laws of physics or other laws that we know nothing about. It’s called life. Life is not about avoiding situations in life but how we choose to deal with what is happening. To say that things happen to cause change takes away our free will. Causes happen but what is important is the effect of change. I believe we always have choice (and that is to do good) regardless of an accident, bad luck, or whatever label we choose to put on life. Again, thanks for your blog seed to help me crystalize my thinking.

  3. Megan September 24, 2009 / 12:12 pm

    My thoughts and prayers go out to your friend who was in the car crash. I hope for them, a speedy recovery!

    I think it is always important to follow our hearts. Look to see if you actions are coming from a place of the past, for example; never going into bars in your 40’s because your deceased mother thought poorly of those women. Your mother might be a voice it he back of your head, but the guilt her voice has embedded in you, is not your inner Goddess speaking.

    Also, I truly believe that we chose to be in this particular time and space, we CHOSE to be here. The events that occur in our life time are placed there for us to grow from, to alter something. Lissa is a good example of this with her Father having passed, her brothers liver problems and dog passing all within 2 weeks!

    I think it is important for us to not play the victim in life. From that stance, we are unable to grow and be strong. A victim views themselves as weak and unable.

    Love you lots!

    (sorry if this came off harsh, it was unintended)

  4. Will March 13, 2010 / 4:08 pm

    I can’t help but to think that it’s not a bad or good thing that happens – it’s whether we determine the thing is good or bad. Yes, bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. Good or bad, we’re all subject to the whims of nature. We take these experiences and do with them what we will.

    My heart goes out to your friend, with best wishes for a thorough recovery.

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