I’d been thinking about another ranting post in defense of women for today. I’d read two things yesterday-an article and a blog comment-that got me all stirred up. Though the author of said comment would never read this post, I wanted to rip him a new one. (In case your wondering the comment was on a blog post over at Owning Pink and it listed the things that “the vast majority of men” expect a woman to do/have including long hair on their head and no hair in their nether-regions.)
My anger came from fear and my reaction was to fight. I wanted to defend all those young women who are jumping through hoops, going against their values, and making themselves smaller all in an attempt to get love from creeps like this commenter. I judged and am still judging this guy for what he had the nerve to write on a website intended to empower women.
So I came here to rant, but when I arrived here I found a new comment for me. It was on my Crisis of Faith post and it basically pointed out my own hypocrisy. How can I claim to be a person who is both open-minded and compassionate if I can not open my heart and find compassion for people who have different beliefs and values than I do? Jesus instructed us to love our neighbors and to forgive seventy times seven. If Jesus is my way-shower, I need to go within and find forgiveness and compassion for the people that instill fear in me. My anger always comes from fear.
So right now, because of that critical comment, I am thinking a lot about my reactions and how to transfuse them with love. Is there a way to stand up for what you believe in without fighting against anyone? Can I truly love and forgive the leaders who are butchering jobs in my community and the commenter who believes that a woman’s worth is measured by the kind of hair she has (or doesn’t) and the sexual favors she is willing to perform? I don’t want to remain silent, but I also don’t want to judge harshly out of anger.
What are your thoughts on this? I’d love to hear your ideas!