Dear Gavin and Brantley,
It has taken me two months to get around to doing this. At some level the longer I put it off the less real it would be that your mommy is no longer here in her body, walking around with us. I miss her so very much and am so sad that you’ll never have the opportunity to be in her physical presence. I wanted to finally take the time to tell you about her, from my perspective.
I met Amy in high school. We were on yearbook staff together and in Ms. Brown’s math class. We were both the teacher’s pet that year, Amy more than me because she could actually excel in Math Concepts, I squeaked by because Ms. Brown remembered how good I was in Geometry. The day that we really became friends was when we ran into each other with our moms on a tour of UNCC. As a part of the tour a girl let us check out her dorm room in Moore Hall (the freshman dorm). In that moment Amy and I looked at each other and said “Let’s room together and live here!” It was decided. I called the friend I was supposed to room with and weaseled out of our agreement then filled out the housing paperwork to room with Amy. We started to hang out a lot together leading up to going to college. By the time we moved in together in late Summer of 1993, we were already close.
That year was a great one. We had so much fun and became like sisters. When we weren’t out hitting the frat parties, or dancing at The Pterodactyl, we would just stay up into the wee hours talking, “roommate gab” we called it. One thing I learned about Amy that year is that no one could help but fall in love with her. She had the best personality and was so easy to talk to. Unlike me, she could be the life of the party without having one single adult beverage. A lot of guys had crushes on her that year. And over the course of our friendship at least one guy I was into lost his heart to Amy. I was pretty upset when that happened, but she went to great lengths to get me to forgive her and of course I did.
Amy was always a good friend. She was there in the hard times, always. One thing I remember is that she had such an amazing instinct about things. She’d warn me about people and I’d never listen. Back then I thought she was jealous. Now I realize she was just very aware of people. Every time she was bothered by a relationship (whether friendship or “love”) I was in, it always turned out badly. She never said “I told you so” although she could have on several occasions.
There is so much more I could say about her. She was silly, fun, enjoyed nice things, loved talking to people (was the first person I knew to have a cell phone), never compromised on her standards, and knew how to love and be loved! One thing that stands out about our freshman year of college is fire drills! Since we lived in the freshman dorm, someone was always pulling that alarm. During those drills, we’d go out and sit in Amy’s blue Ford Probe listening to “Vacation” by the Go Go’s. It would play over and over and we’d sing at the top of our lungs until we saw our dorm mates heading back into the building.
I will say for certain that Heaven has a very special angel now. Your mother was AMAZING! She was a gift to so many of us and was so generous that before she left, she gifted us with the two of you!
I love you boys!