I wanted to continue talking about soulmates because I didn’t feel like one post was enough for it. As I have started paying attention to the events in my life I notice the feelings that arise when I meet people. When I encounter a soulmate there is a certain recognition within me. I think that the level of attraction or even repulsion I feel, determines the impact that person will have on my life. I felt an incredibly strong attraction to my friend and neighbor, Teresa and my meditation teacher, Rob. Both of these people have been pivotal in my spiritual journey. I have learned so much from the two of them and they have become my spiritual companions.
The same sort of connection happened when I started attending writing group. It was actually Rob’s wife who put me in touch with Adrian Fogelin who then invited me to join her group. The group is amazing and each person involved has offered me just what I needed in my growth as a writer. They offer positive support and encouragement when I am doubting my skills and they ask the tough questions that make me examine what and why I write what I do. I am so grateful to be a part of this group and if (no actually not if..but when) my novels are published it will certainly be because of what I have learned from these amazing writers. I have felt like I “belonged” with them from the first meeting I attended.
There is also another theory behind soulmates that I tend to buy into (although for some the idea is controversial or even offensive) and that is the idea of reincarnation. Many books I’ve read and people I’ve talked with believe that those closest to us, whom we connect with the most, are people we’ve shared other lives with. If you meet someone and are completely repelled by them without good reason it could be because in a past life the two of you had a difficult relationship. And of course the whole idea of “love at first sight” could be because in another life you had actually been in love with the person.
Recently I read a book by Denise Linn called “Past Lives, Present Dreams” where she talked about something called “Lovemates.” Her definition of lovemates was the definition that most people use for soulmates. She suggests that we all have a twin soul, someone who is a mirror of us, who “completes us.” She says that we do not share every life with this person and don’t always connect with them when we do. She says that relationships with lovemates are sometimes difficult but when the work is done are very fulfilling and loving. She also says that many people never find their lovemates and many others are already with their lovemates and don’t realize it. (I like to think I’ve found mine.)
The truth about all of this…soulmates and lovemates…is that we will never have any real proof of it. Just like so many other things, I take it with faith because it feels good to me. I feel less alone believing I am connected beyond this physical realm with many other loved ones.