Way back when I first joined Facebook I was chatting with a friend about the numbers. She had observed a change in her number of friends, it went down instead of up. She was trying to figure out who de-friended her. I told her that probably someone had just completely removed themselves from Facebook, therefore falling off her list. There was a “friend” on my list who was constantly doing that, deleting and then re-instating her profile. I mean what reason would anyone have to de-friend you?
Well flash forward about 8 months later and I have recently discovered that I have been Facebook dumped by not one, but three people. The first one I caught was a friend of a friend’s that I had sent an invite to after meeting her. She accepted the invite and I said hello, nice hanging out with you last week and all that good stuff. A few weeks later her name popped up in response to our common friend and I noticed she changed her profile picture. I clicked on her name to get a better look at the picture and low and behold we were no longer friends. (What did I do?) The second person was an actual friend whom I’d been getting the cold shoulder from. After a weird email exchange, I decided to do some detective work (it had been months since I’d seen a FB status with her name on it). Yet again, dumped. (What did I do? Well this one I kind of know the answer to.) Finally, there was a guy who had friended me in the very first week I was on Facebook. He went to high school with me and I’ve never spoken to him before in my life. I only knew who he was because he was one of the popular kids. He was a fanatic with his status updates. I went from knowing nothing about him, to knowing every detail of his daily routine. The other day I realized it’d been a long time since I’d read about his daily trip to Starbucks and did a little search. He didn’t show up. I decided he’d left Facebook. Then a day or two later he was commenting on one of my friend’s status updates and again I realized, I’d been dumped. (What did I do?)
I’m really not sure what Facebook etiquette says about all this de-friending, but it definitely does a number on your self-esteem. (I mean come on, WHAT DID I DO?) See, I’m one of those people that really wants to be liked. I can’t handle knowing there are people in the world who may have been offended by me or don’t like me. I like to think the first girl decided to downsize her list to include only her “real” friends and that the guy finally figured out he’d gotten the wrong Leslee (he meant to friend Leslie). And as for the other one, well if friendships are like dating than I guess the Facebook dump was her official way of breaking up with me.
Anyway, I here by officially promise never to dump any of my Facebook friends (even that lady whose request I accepted assuming I knew her only to discover I have no idea who the heck she is). And for any of you who know them, I’d sure like to hear more about the rules of etiquette for Facebook. And also, I have to admit all this getting dumped is doing a lot to help me get over this “caring what other people think about me” thing I’ve had going on most of my life. So really, it’s all good!