Great Compliment…Great Timing

So I’ve already written two posts about the preoccupation with my weight.  And I must admit, it is distracting me again.  Since the girls have been out of school for the summer, my gym time has been cut in half, but I do still manage to get there about 2 or 3 times a week.  When I’m at the gym, I notice how fit and attractive people are.  I used to work out at the Y and there was a guy in spin class who looked like Luke Macfarlane.  There was also a personal trainer who looked like one of the football players on Friday Night Lights.  Now I work out at Women’s World and I still notice how fit and attractive people are.  There is one woman who looks like the lead actress in The Departed and another who is completely ripped and looks like she’ll bite your head off until she smiles and then she’s transformed into an angel.

Last Thursday was just an ordinary day at the gym.  Bodypump class was coming to an end and I was putting my weights away.  I walked by a woman and couldn’t help but notice her slim figure and perfect boobs.  It was in that moment that I thought, you know forget the hard work maybe one day I will just get a boob job and a tummy tuck.  I’ve never imagined myself thinking such thoughts, but lately for some reason I have been.  The interesting part of the story though, was that seconds after I had that thought a woman came up to me and gave me the best compliment ever.  She stopped me and said she hoped I wouldn’t think she was weird for saying it, but she had been watching me and thought I was in good shape and I made her want her 20-year-old body back.  ME?!?!  She said this to me, I was on cloud nine and thanked her immensely even adding that visions of plastic surgery had been dancing in my head right before she spoke to me.  I also took it as a little message from the universe (AKA: God) to stop thinking about changing myself and just start loving myself!  I’m trying…I really am!

I’ve also decided that I’m going to get the nerve up to tell all of these beautiful people just how beautiful they are (instead of worrying they’ll think I’m weird).  I know from experience now that it really does make your day to hear it!

6 thoughts on “Great Compliment…Great Timing

  1. Kelly July 27, 2009 / 3:33 pm

    So I had an experience like this once back in college…
    I was looking at this girl sitting at a table in a cafe. She was perfect. Perfect hair, eyes, boobs, skin…everything. I was soooo envious. I hated her. I loved her. I kept sneaking glances and all the while comparing myself to her…wishing I could be her. Then after about 15 minutes she stood up to leave. Leslee, she was disabled. She had one leg clearly shorter than the other and turned inwards, leaving her with a terrible limp and an exaggerated gate. I couldn’t tell she was disabled while she was sitting down, but when she walked away my heart dropped and I realized how fortunate I was to have the healthy use of both of my legs. It gave me so much perspective. Things are never what they seem, and while there are a million people prettier, smarter, thinner, wealthier etc. than you, there are a million more who’d love to walk in your shoes for a day.

  2. Megan harner July 27, 2009 / 6:24 pm

    Thanks for sharing that. I felt like I wrote the blog. I completely Sympathize with you. I too will make more of an effort to love me the way I am!

    • lesleehorner July 27, 2009 / 8:52 pm

      Thanks Megan and Kelly for your comments. I am very grateful for my health and even my looks. But I had a lot of years of not being satisfied or grateful for my looks, so the deprogramming continues….

  3. Kasey July 27, 2009 / 10:19 pm

    Great post! I think you look FANTASTIC and will be praying for you to see that too! You are beautiful and yes, GOD sent that lady to you today. I believe that was one of his “small whispers”…she was His vessel for you today. And I think it’s great to compliment others – there needs to be more of that in the world today! You GO girl!! 😉

  4. heather July 28, 2009 / 9:00 am

    You should check out this month’s issue of Real Simple Magazine – there is a section “What makes me feel beautiful” – different women wrote about the things that make them feel beautiful. Funny I was going to write you about it and then I saw this post – timely again. My comment – it is funny being insatiable/unsatisfied can drive you crazy or drive you to positive (?) change.

  5. eastkentuckygal July 29, 2009 / 6:23 pm

    The deprogramming is hard when we are bombarded by images of unrealistic visions. There was a commercial that said the average American woman is a size 14-16. The average female reality star is size 2. That’s not a realistic thing to be comparing ourselves to. I’m done with it. I am finally at peace with me. Why? How? Because I know I’m doing everything I can to take care of me. I eat healthy foods and I enjoy my physical time. My body will do what it is supposed to do. My healthy body will add to the variety of the world.

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